Should I leave my husband or stay for my kids’ sake?
Question by Liz B: Should I leave my husband or stay for my kids’ sake?
My husband is a selfish, lazy, angry person. He does not help around the house or with our two kids. Often, he will go upstairs and be by himself instead of spending time with us. If we don’t watch what he wants to watch or do what he wants to do, he will throw a temper tantrum and yell then storm off. He is depressed so he has been seeing a therapist and is on medication but it doesn’t seem to be helping. He calls our children names and yells at them unfairly. When I intervene on their behalf, he will turn on me and start calling me names and saying very hurtful things. He will not hold back anything when he gets angry and he will say the things that he knows will hurt me the most. We have a four year old and a 7 month old. He used to be much more invested in our family but he has changed a lot. Before the depression, he was kind, he would play with our older daughter, he helped me with chores. He actually enjoyed conversations with me. Everything has completely turned on its head. Now, the only time when I really feel like he’s present is when we have sex but then that makes me feel like he only wants me around for my body. He also gets angry if we don’t have sex every day and he will make me feel really guilty if I turn him down. I want to leave him because he has made me so unhappy and he criticizes me so much but I’m worried that he will get joint custody of our kids. I don’t want him to be alone with them, especially the baby, because he doesn’t pay attention to them unless they make him angry and then who knows how he’ll treat them if I’m not there to act as a buffer. So my question is: should I ask for a divorce and run the risk of my children being left alone with him or should I try to stick it out until they are old enough to choose which parent they want to live with? Or am I being completely selfish by wanting to leave him while he is battling depression? Maybe he will get over his depression and go back to the way he used to be? I am so confused, unhappy and lonely. I need some help.
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Answer by Zieke
I’d leave for the sake of the kids & by the sounds of it, no one would give that man joint custody!
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